How you heal and balance after a breakup

Breakups are an undeniable part of the cycle of life as everything ends.

Some interactions are so profound, they leave an ever lasting remark on your soul. So I remember of the last conversation we had after closing the door of my house — and — our relationship .

“There is not always something to learn, James.”

I could not disagree more. Every relationship gives us a reflection of our soul’s brightest and darkest sides. And thus it is the best opportunity to grow , especially when we hit resistance.

1 Find the why and how

First and foremost find out why did it not work out. Did you have different life goals? Maybe you were you incompatible sexual partners? Or you were just at the wrong point in your life to build something stable .

2 See the mirrors with compassion

We always experience what we judge in others, or what we admire. See the good qualities you found in the relationship, and the bad. Whatever happened — don’t project anger onto your ex-partner . You are both responsible for the full relationship. All is well and making us evolve as a person.

If there are parts that you did not like in the other, figure out how you can change these in yourself. Often it are our underdeveloped qualities we find enlarged in others. If your partner was perfectionistic…